Friday, May 2, 2008

Beyond the "I" and "We" (Writers Island)

Sometimes I ask myself: “How much of me is accessible to another? How much of another is accessible to me? What are the limits and how far can the interaction between two beings go? I can touch someone’s hand; feel the shape of their bodies, use language and gesture to communicate emotions and abstractions. I can yet look deep into their eyes and be convinced that there is a soul behind the eyes, one that thinks, feels and works independent of my relations to it or feelings towards it.

To look into the eyes of a person you love wholeheartedly is bound to be an emotionally deep way of absorbing what spoken words could only partially sustain, such is the immediacy and directness by which the eyes portray us. But then, not even that seems to be enough. And if sexual intercourse demonstrates full potential for both physical and emotional exchange, our brains usually can only take in so much of the experience. It’s as almost as if there was a mental threshold preventing us from surpassing the personal level of experience. Could I ever see life though the eyes of another? Merge so completely with another as to not being able to separate the parts from the whole? Feel below one’s skin and see into one’s thoughts?

One of the fascinating features of human consciousness is that it exists on so many levels, and can be exercised in so many ways. And while a transpersonal assertion may sound idealistic in one way or another, I bet it’s anything but. It’s also funny to think that if we’re not fully tangible to others, no more are we fully tangible to ourselves. Such makes the quest for the ego shattering experience of great value to processing our world view beyond the tight spaces of a single minded framework. Easier said than done.
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10 comments:

paisley said...

this was a very thought provoking post... no two beings percieve any situation in exactly the same manner,, so i believe with that said,, that nay amount of what we call closeness,, or understanding,, is simply relative to the way we as an individual experienced it....

Stan Ski said...

How mutual is mutual? I guess we'll never really know.

gautami tripathy said...

Some question answered, some not...I like the way it goes.

One suggestion. With line breaks it would read even better.

dog and (wo)man

jadey said...

Awesome post that really makes us think. I don't think anyone reallys sees things the same way. Even if we say we have so much in common. You can ask one person what there experience was or why they thought something about it and then ask the other person that agreed they had so much in common and you will get different answers.

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one more believer said...

excellent post.. absolutely the eyes reflect the person w/o cover.. when we share our lives with someone over a long period of time i truly believe we mesh and the lines separately two become foggy...tho it is in constant motion.. exchanging, dropping off, picking up... being single after so long being two has such a sense of freedom i lacked before... am i a sponge that absorbs beyond saturation or am i closed to all who peer my way... excellent thoughts...

rebecca said...

i don't think you can ever see life thru the eyes of another simply because you do not share their experiences, nature, nurture. each person filters the world in their own unique way.

this was excellent, gilson....thought-provoking and excellent.

Andrea e Breno said...

Phil,
A expressão do seu pensamento foi de uma sensibilidade sublime. Não temos dúvida da força e da capacidade que os olhos têm de descortinar o "não dito", o "subentendido" e o "não evidente" o que nos possibilita enxergar o outro no outro e não apenas vê-lo !! E quando enxergamos o outro no outro entendemos como se processa a sua percepção da realidade e então conseguimos enxergar o mundo pelos seus olhos, sem nunca termos saído de junto de nós.
beijão
Andrea e Breno.

Gilson said...

Andrea e Breno

Suas palavras se escrevem aqui como plena extensão das minhas. Senti receio quando postei esse texto de não conseguir ser bem compreendido, mas vejo aqui que fui compreendido muito bem. Agradeço seu comentário e peço desculpas por não ter lhes respondido antes, apenas que eu costumo apenas olhar as replicas dos posts mais recentes.

Forte abraço, Gilson

georix said...

Insightful! Very well said.

By your poetic lines,
A story unfolds;
Some friendship through time,
t'wil be great enough to behold.

"From the abundance of the heart,
The mouth speaks";
Words uttered not in the dark,
No lies, no deceits.

Thanks a lot, my friend,
never been happier;
In just the right time it happened,
You're my buddy forever.